A Site for Your Sore Eyes!
This melted ice cream on the desk next to me tastes like gross milk.
And I just drank the water like it was my last chance at getting liquid in my body. Regardless, that has nothing to do with what I am going to write. I am going to write about feelings and the internet.
Now, it's very hard to prove that you're a real friend or that you really care about someone just by typing out text. The internet is one of the biggest lie and drama producers today. Besides the news. But, the internet runs hand in hand. You see, on the net, you can tell someone you love them and not even mean it. How will they know? In person, you can tell someone you love them and it could be reacted too in a totally different manner. You could not mean it and the other person would be able to tell pretty much right away.
On the net, if you get tired of someone, you can simply tell them you have other things to do. Don't feel like discussing something with that person? You can simply not respond. This can only be taken so far on the net however. If you stopped responding entierly, the person would probably get the hint. And also be hurt. But, yeah, whatever, as long as you don't have to talk to them, right? Or at least about said subject. In real life, you can't simply ignore the person without coming off as downright rude. You can't just turn invisible or tell the person, "oh, I have things I need to go do." But, the person will still be hurt, won't they? Same in real life as if it were the net. Point one.
On the net, you don't really know who someone is. You've never really hung out with them, or seen their antics or heard their stories. You've never seen their face or their body language or heard their voice. With increasing technology, we ARE able to do these things, even with miles and miles seperating us. Not everyone is up to showing themselves on webcam or talking on Skype, however. That can be one of the problems. If we opened ourselves up a bit more in that direction, we may be getting somewhere. At least you hear the person's voice, and that's a good starting place. Point two.
Okay, how about relationships or friendships. Should we not be able to care for someone just because distance seperates us? It doesn't matter what you say. On the other end of the line is another human being with feelings and insights of their own. Now, I'm not saying you should run out and try finding people to date online, but find people by letting it happen. Don't TRY. Let's put it that way. Just meet people and be cool. Before you know it, you have some nice friendships. Now, it's entierly up to you if you want to make a stronger bond with the person or leave it be. It all depends on your comfort level.
But just like in real life, how can we really prove we love or care about someone? Even in real life, how do you prove that? Kiss, hold hands and get married? No, it's about having that bond. You hurt when they hurt, you laugh when they laugh, you want them to be happy and you feel this incesent need for them. And when they don't feel the same back, you're very hurt. Hurt that all the time, energy and love you've put into this person will not be returned. But everyone could use a little love and caring.
Okay, now Filipe told me this once. He said that a crush was just something you had when you kinda liked the other person and didn't expect anything to happen.<\p>
Hold up. Do you see something wrong there? Didn't expect anything to happen? Okay, why the hell would you start crushing on someone in the first place if you "didn't expect anything to happen"? Mind you, a man told me this. I am a woman and I believe our views on emotions must be completely different. With a man, it's almost always logic. It's in your head, not your heart. With women, it's almost always emotions. It's in your heart, not your head. It's one of the reasons we as opposite genders always conflict. But those who love one another that can see past this and all other faults of the other person, really must love each other, right?
I am told that it is unhealthy to care for those you've never met. Maybe because it brings you down, makes you depressed and lonely. But isn't that your own decision? Why should you let some miles make you uncaring? In the words of the boss Michael from "The Office", "If two people love each other, what should come between them?"
I must agree with you Michael. Nothing. Of course, he was also trying to act like he totally understood gay people in that episode, *snick* and...he...*snick* tried to make-out with the gay guy in an office meeting! *laughs* Oh, you should've seen the way everyone in the meeting was looking at him! Oh, it was great! He-nevermind. The point is, you shouldn't allow anything to come between your feelings. Don't stop loving.
And I'm not talking about sex here. Sex is not love. It can show love if two people have completely opened their hearts to one another, and they let that emotion and passion drive them. But basing a relationship on sex alone is retarded. Though, it does feel good. And...the pleasure from it can be unbelivable. BUT. Wouldn't you rather share that moment with someone who means the world to you? Someone who you really want to make happy? Yeah, it's more important than society makes it these days. Love and sex are thrown everywhere, and no one seems to know it's true meanings anymore. It's actually...pretty sad.
I actually had a good argument when I first started writing this out. But it's 1 AM and I'm sure I completely forgot.
Cid September 2007